Before there was Tommy and Molly-Mae, Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck had been the authentic IT couple. And they’re again, massive time. Affectionally often called ‘Bennifer’, this pair’s ever-evolving flirtation and magnetic chemistry has captivated us for actually 20 years. And guess what? We’re nonetheless completely obsessed.
We felt it was solely proper to have a look down reminiscence lane to see all the important thing moments in Bennifer’s relationship, from assembly on the set of a doomed comedy film, to taking Venice Film Festival by storm. Buckle up pop-culture followers, that is required studying.
December 2001: J.Lo and Ben Affleck begin filming Gigli
The pair starred on this comedy about an American mobster (performed by Ben) who falls in love with a hustler (performed by J.Lo). On launch, the film was universally panned by critics and has been dubbed one of many worst movies of all time. At least we are able to thank it for bringing #Bennifer collectively?
While sparks clearly flew between the actors, J.Lo was married to her second husband Cris Judd at this level (she was beforehand married to Ojani Noa).
April 2002: Ben pays for an advert in The Hollywood Reporter to publicly assist J.Lo.
He wrote, “You have shown kindness, dedication, diligence, humility, graciousness of spirit, beauty in courage, great empathy, astonishing talent, real poise and true grace…It has been nothing but an honor and a pleasure to work with you. I only wish I were lucky enough to be in all your movies.” He signed the advert, “With love, respect and gratitude, Ben Affleck.” Talk about PDA?!
Ben later defined the rationale behind this gesture to Vanity Fair, saying that J.Lo, “had developed this reputation as a diva and a pain in the ass,” and he needed to “counteract” that narrative. He continued,
“She works harder than anybody I’ve ever seen. I thought I was busy with movies and television and writing; I felt pretty maxed out until I met her. She was doing all that and recording albums on weekends!”
July 2002: J.Lo information for divorce from Cris Judd
In an announcement (through People), stated, “Jennifer Lopez and Cris Judd have announced they have resolved all issues arising out of their marriage. The resolution was extremely amicable […] The two will remain friends.”
In his interview with Vanity Fair, Ben reiterates that he and Jen weren’t romantically concerned whereas she was married. He stated, “We would hang out, but I talked about me all the time […] I was vaguely aware she had something going on, but I was too busy running off my mouth. It changed when she told me she was getting separated. At that point, it became a possibility; doors were opened.”
November 2002: Ben stars as J.Lo’s love curiosity in her hit single ‘Jenny from the Block’
The couple poke enjoyable on the media curiosity surrounding their relationship, partying on a yacht (extra on that later) whereas studying about themselves within the tabloids. On that day, Bennifer was born.
November 2002: J.Lo releases her third album, that includes a track referred to as ‘Dear Ben’
If you have not heard this banger, this is slightly style of the lyrics: “I love you, you’re perfect. A manifestation of my dreams. You make my body feel about a million different things.”
November 2002: Ben and Jen are engaged!
It’s all occurring so quick! The pair verify their engagement in an interview with Diane Sawyers, revealing Ben’s “traditional” proposal and J.Lo’s legendary six-carat pink diamond engagement ring from Harry Winston, which one fortunate showbiz journalist was lucky sufficient to strive on…
In the interview, J.Lo recalled the proposal scene, saying, “It’s just a blanket, a quilt of rose petals, all over the whole entire house […] So many candles, and vases, bouquets. And my song ‘Glad’ was playing … I walk in and I was just overwhelmed. I wasn’t expecting it, and I was just like ‘Oh my God.”
After Ben learn her a letter of all the explanations he cherished her, J.Lo stated, “I had cried a lot over sadness over the years. And for the first time in my life, I cried incredible purging tears of happiness. It was the most cleansing feeling and the most wonderful feeling I had ever had.”
December 2002: The pair film their second film collectively, Jersey Girl
J.Lo performed Ben’s onscreen spouse who (spoiler alert) died in just about the primary 5 minutes of the film. Jersey Girl additionally bombed on the field workplace, with Ben and Jen being nominated for ‘Worst Actor’ and ‘Worst Supporting Actress’ respectively on the Razzie Awards in 2004. Bit harsh?
February 2003: The couple hits the purple carpet for the premiere of Ben’s film Daredevil
Looking each inch Hollywood’s favorite couple, Ben and J.Lo had been as loved-up as ever. Incidentally, Ben additionally posed for a number of pics together with his Daredevil co-star and future spouse (to not point out mom to their three youngsters) Jennifer Garner.
March 2003: Ben calls J.Lo a “misunderstood woman”
In an interview with Vanity Fair, Ben discusses his relationship with J.Lo, saying, “”Jennifer is a very fantastic, fabulous girl, smart and attention-grabbing. Spending time together with her makes me a greater particular person and a happier particular person. She impresses me daily. It feels higher to me to be together with her than with out her.
“Jen and I want to get married for the reason everyone else does: we fell in love. I’m in love; I want to have a family; and she’s the only person I’ve ever met who made me entertain the thought of doing that.” He then commented on the general public frenzy surrounding their relationship, attributing it to race and sophistication components: “I think it has to do with race and class, the fact that I’m white and she’s Puerto Rican,” he stated. “That’s what’s underneath, although nobody says it, because it’s not politically correct.”
Ben additionally stated that J.Lo was “characterized as oversexed,” saying, “Jen has had fewer boyfriends than your average high-school junior. In the physical sense, she’s extremely chaste. She’s had a much simpler, more easily explainable, more clean romantic history than I have. She can tell the whole story in 15 minutes, whereas I always preface the whole story with ‘It was complicated …’ She’s a deeply misunderstood woman, in my opinion.”
July 2003: The couple get candid about how they met
In an interview with Pat O’Brien, J.Lo recalled, “We met at a couple of the parties. You know, we barely paid any attention to each other at all.” She then opened up about their time as co-stars on the set of Gigli, saying, “We talked a lot and that’s the thing… There was no kind of idea that we would be together in the future, so it was one of those things where you kind of like say too much. It felt like we had good chemistry. He likes to improv. I could improv back. He’s the best person to improv in the whole entire business, he’s so funny.
J.Lo additionally confirmed that she’d be taking Ben’s final title however would nonetheless use Lopez professionally.
August 2003: J.Lo and Ben’s film is launched…and flops
The film garnered heightened media consideration as a consequence of J.Lo and Ben’s engagement, which made it all of the extra awkward when it flopped. According to E!, in 2017 J.Lo described this as her “lowest point.” She stated, “”It was a really badly reviewed film. I used to be in a high-profile relationship on the time that fell aside in a very unhealthy method, and so the type of mixture of these two issues and the tabloid press had simply come into existence on the time, so I used to be like a poster little one for that second.”
September 2003: Ben and Jen postpone their wedding due to media attention
According to People, the wedding was supposed to take place in Santa Barbara before it was pushed back. The couple released a statement, saying, “Due to the extreme media consideration surrounding our wedding ceremony, now we have determined to postpone the date. When we discovered ourselves significantly considering hiring three separate ‘decoy brides’ at three completely different places, we realized that one thing was awry.
“We began to feel that the spirit of what should have been the happiest day of our lives could be compromised. We felt what should have been a joyful and sacred day could be spoiled for us, our families and our friends.”
January 2004: Bennifer isn’t any extra
Ben and J.Lo formally name it quits. One of J.Lo’s representatives releases an announcement saying, “Jennifer Lopez has ended her engagement to Ben Affleck. At this difficult time, we ask that you respect her privacy.”
June 2004: J.Lo marries Marc Anthony
J.Lo had beforehand dated the singer within the Nineties and their wedding ceremony got here as a shock to many. The pair welcomed twins, Maximilian David and Emme Maribel, in 2008. They introduced their separation in July 2011, and the divorce was finalised in June 2014. Their assertion learn, “This was a very difficult decision. We have come to an amicable conclusion on all matters. It is a painful time for all involved and we appreciate the respect of our privacy at this time.”
June 2005: Ben Affleck marries Jennifer Garner
A 12 months after his former fiancée weds, Ben additionally ties the knot together with his earlier co-star, Jennifer Garner. The pair are married for a decade, wherein time they’ve three youngsters: Violet, Seraphina, and Samuel. They announce their cut up in 2015, saying, “After much thought and careful consideration, we have made the difficult decision to divorce. We go forward with love and friendship for one another and a commitment to co-parenting our children whose privacy we ask to be respected during this difficult time.”
May 2010: J.Lo opens up about how her relationship with Ben suffered because of the media
During her look on the Graham Norton Show, J.Lo says, “I love Ben, he’s a great guy, but it was a lot for both of us to be under that type of siege for two years straight. We were on the cover of every magazine, every week, it was just a weird thing.” She continued, “Our relationship, I think, did suffer because of that. That’s not the only reason. I would never blame the media for anything, but I think it definitely played a part in the dynamic of our relationship.”
November 2014: J.Lo says Marc Anthony rescued her after cut up from Ben
Per Page Six, J.Lo recalled, “Ben and I split up at the moment when I thought we were committing to each other forever, it was my first real heartbreak, it felt like my heart had been torn out of my chest.
“My method of anesthetizing the ache was completely different. I sought out consolation in one other particular person, tried to seek out somebody who might make me really feel cherished and needed in my loneliest hour […] Marc got here again into my life three days after I ought to have been on the altar saying ‘I do’ to a different man.
“Thinking back, maybe deep down I knew that this was a Band-Aid on the cut, that my wound hadn’t been stitched or healed,” she added. “But I pushed all that to the again of my thoughts. Because life takes unpredictable twists and turns, proper? And you’ve simply bought to go along with what you are feeling is greatest within the second.”
January 2019: J.Lo says tabloids contributed to her and Ben’s split
In her MTV documentary The Ride, J.Lo said, “When the tabloids had been out and we had been being hounded by paparazzi always, it was a very exhausting time. I bear in mind being on the duvet of these tabloids for 2 years straight and it was brutal.
“I think it absolutely contributed to the demise of our relationship and the love that we had. There was so much judgment and pressure and scrutiny and opinions and it was just a really, really hard thing to deal with.”
February 2020: Reconciliation is in sight as Ben says J.Lo ought to’ve been nominated for an Oscar for her function in Hustlers
According to Brooks Barnes, Ben stated the next throughout his interview with The New York Times: “She should have been nominated. She’s the real thing. I keep in touch periodically with her and have a lot of respect for her. How awesome is it that she had her biggest hit movie at 50? That’s f*cking baller.”
January 2021: Ben speaks up concerning the racism J.Lo endured throughout their relationship
Speaking on The Hollywood Reporter’s “Awards Chatter” podcast, Ben stated, “People were so f-cking mean about her — sexist, racist […] Ugly, vicious sh*t was written about her in ways that if you wrote it now you would literally be fired for saying those things you said.”
January 2021: Ben and Ana de Armas cut up up after courting throughout lockdown
E! News reported that the pair had cut up after a 12 months of courting. Discussing the break-up, a supply reportedly stated, “”Both of them have utterly full lives in a great way. There will at all times be that love.”
April 2021: J.Lo and Alex Rodriguez split up after four years together
The pair released a joint statement to the Today Show, saying, “We have realized we’re higher as buddies and stay up for remaining so. We will proceed to work collectively and assist one another on our shared companies and tasks. We want the most effective for one another and each other’s youngsters. Out of respect for them, the one different remark now we have to say is thanks to everybody who has despatched form phrases and assist.”
May 2021: Sources report that Ben are Jen are hanging out again
A source told People, “They have a good time hanging out. It’s been years since they caught up correctly. They have heaps to speak about,” adding, “They plan on hanging out once more.”
May 2021: Ben visits J.Lo at her Miami dwelling
A source told E! News, “Ben took a purple eye to Miami and went straight to J.Lo’s new home within the early morning hours. She regarded very comfortable to see him they usually walked across the property collectively so she might present him round […] She had an enormous smile on her face and was twirling in a unfastened summer time gown. They spent the day inside collectively however got here out a number of occasions for recent air and to admire the water view.”
A source later told US Weekly, “Jen and Ben are each very pleased with every [other] and are excited to see the place the connection goes. They are full-on courting and really comfortable collectively.” Eeeek.
June 2021: It’s happening! Ben and Jen are photographed with their arms around each other in California
Pictures obtained by E! News show Bennifer enjoying a date night. An insider told Page Sixthat, ““They were very affectionate, very cuddly. He had his arm around her the whole time.”
A few days later, Ben was noticed leaving J.Lo’s home with a realizing grin, which clearly spawned a thousand memes.
June 2021: Photos emerge of Ben and J.Lo kissing
A video obtained by Page Six reveals the reunited couple kissing over dinner.
July 2021: J.Lo and Ben go Insta-official
The singer shared a collection of images of herself modelling a swimsuit, and within the third image Ben joined her for a smooch. File this beneath issues we LOVE to see.
July 2021: Ben and J.Lo could also be shifting in collectively
According to Entertainment Tonight, shut buddies of the pair stated that they “wouldn’t be surprised” in the event that they “move in together and ultimately end up together.”
“They’re spending all of their free time together and making each other a priority. J.Lo falls hard and has certainly done the same with Ben again this time around. Ben is a guy’s guy and does his own thing, which J.Lo loves. He has his own life and is famous in a different way than she is and is not trying to compete with her by any means. They just support and love each other.”
July 2021: Bennifer recreate scene from Jenny from the Block music video whereas reclining on a yacht
In a nostalgic second, Ben may very well be seen together with his hand resting on J.Lo’s bum, similar to *that* scene within the Jenny from the Block music video. Fans start to invest that the pair are recreating iconic moments from the video to have fun it is twentieth (!) anniversary.
J.Lo is later noticed carrying a necklace that reads, ‘BEN’, inspiring us all to spend money on some namesake jewelry.
August 2021: Ben is noticed looking engagement rings
Photos obtained by Page Six seem to point out Ben looking engagement rings at Tiffany’s in California together with his son and mom. Can he high that pink diamond ring from the primary time round?
September 2021: Bennifer’s energy couple standing is restored as they cruise to Venice Film Festival
In one thing straight out of a James Bond film, J.Lo and Ben rock as much as Venice Film Festival in a water taxi, trying completely beautiful. Couple objectives is an understatement.
Keeping up with this pair could also be exhausting, however we’re nonetheless eagerly awaiting the latest replace!
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